How to Know When to Take Action on a Desire or Wait for More Guidance

Hi there friends!

This week I’m sharing a podcast with you on one of the most common I receive from clients and students:

How do I know when to take action on a desire or goal versus wait for more guidance from my higher self?

Have a listen and let me know what you think!

Major Themes:

• There is tension between waiting and listening to your intuition vs. taking action 

• It’s not comfortable

• The difference between basic human tension and battlefield intensity tension

• Transparency regarding my own process choosing my ideal client

• What do we normally do to numb out from the discomfort? 

• Instant gratification and instant relief as a way to distract from the discomfort

• Some questions to ponder to give you more insights into your own process

  
  
  Let me know in the comments what came up for you! xo, Jen

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How to recognize + let go of self consciousness while running a business

As a teen, I always felt like I needed to prove myself. 

I didn’t see myself. I didn’t believe in myself. I felt safest being useful, hypervigilant & stoic.

I was confused and self conscious with a need to fit in and compare myself with others.

Can you relate??

All of my clients eventually crack into their inner teenager at some point. 

Why? 

Because it's a super difficult age where everyone is self conscious but pretends not to be. 

Because most teens don't know that adolescence is awkward and uncomfortable.

And because we all end up storing this experience in our nervous system because we most likely didn't receive guidance ushering us through it .

Or weren't given the skills and understanding on how to navigate it.

Did you know the teenage brain doesn’t have a fully formed complex thinking capability to step back from intense emotions?

In addition to the normal discomfort that came along with being a teenager, I actually wasn’t being seen. Many of us aren't. 

I didn't have anyone to talk to about my feelings. 

My brain was processing things developmentally at a new level and I didn't know how to interpret all the information (boys, self doubt, shame, depression, family expectations, progressive family dysfunction). 

And I wasn't supposed to know how! 

I would be nominated for the gifted & talented program, win awards, have boys asking me out and because what was on the INSIDE wasn’t being seen, I couldn't absorb any of it.

I became a shell filled with worry, overthinking, shame and doubt. It didn’t matter how many successes I had or how things might have looked on the outside, it wasn’t possible for me to see myself clearly.

The doubt & shame were like big funhouse tinted mirrors that distorted my entire world. And yet, simultaneously, they kept telling me it was my fault.

You might be wondering...

What does my teenage self have to do with showing up and being confident in business?

It actually has EVERYTHING to do with it. 

I carried these ways of thinking for decades and found that these same patterns showed up in my jobs, in my relationships and definitely prevented me from getting visible earlier.

Long after my teenage years, I still felt like that same young girl who kept trying to show up, yet felt unfulfilled, stuck and trapped. 

"What if I try this out and no one cares or wants to participate in my courses and retreats?"

"What if I keep spending money on trainings and I still get nowhere? "

"What if I get my hopes up again? There's probably no point because I'm just going to be disappointed"

"I'm just not cut out for this."

"I'm never going to figure this out."

The thoughts felt like an engine constantly running and sputtering beneath the surface.

The questions and the worries went on and on. I was caught in a self doubt cycle that I didn't know how to stop.

How do I stop feeling this way?
Why am I still thinking about that conversation?
How can I possibly share that?

What would it be like if I could just feel comfortable in my own skin?

Of course, then I’d burn out and have an emotional hangover of exhaustion, because I'd run out of fuel due to high intensity obsessive thought exertion and there was no adrenaline left to keep my body going. 

It wasn't until:

I learned how to take care of her, how to release those old rules and fake lies about needing to hide that things started to shift.

I found a mentor who got me, who saw me, when no one else could see me and showed me the way to heal and the freedom to be myself.

I was given a clear step by step path to follow and the support to take me through the spiral of healing I would revisit continuously.

Take a moment to think back to your teenage years . . .

What are some common emotions and themes you experience during that time?

Did you ever have anyone to talk to about your feelings?

If you did, were there certain topics that were left unspoken?

Do you notice any similarities to what you didn’t get to talk about when you were growing up and how you think about yourself today?

Give it a thought or a quick journaling and see what you come up with!

xo Jen

P.S.

The story above is a culmination of why I’ve created The Confident CEO Mastery Group Coaching Program.

It’s a 4 week group coaching experience designed to help creative, talented, heart-centered women CEO’s, just like you, go from feeling self doubt + imposter syndrome to being the confident, successful bosses of their dream businesses, while experiencing massive fulfillment & freedom in their everyday lives.

In short, I want to support you in the ways that have transformed my life so you can go from self doubt to confident, starting now. Take a peek and just hit reply and leave a comment and let me know if you have any questions :)

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