Essential Mindset Shifts to Stop Hiding Your Amazing Offers + Start Selling with Heart

Do you struggle with feeling icky about sharing or selling your heart centered offers? 😔

My spiritually oriented and empathic entrepreneurial clients often share that they feel this way or discover that they unconsciously believe some form of the following:

1. Selling something is pushy, egotistical, selfish, greedy, etc.

2. Sharing a free opt-in with an offer at the end is a tease

3. Clients and customers don’t want to pay for services or products

4. Asking for a sale is awkward/uncomfortable/insulting

First and foremost, it is inevitable that you will discover certain beliefs that you have around selling, money, worth, power, success and leadership as you put yourself out there and make yourself visible.

It’s often these very beliefs that will keep you distracted from being consistent or continually playing it safe in your business.

This why it’s so helpful to compassionately air them out and recognize what parts of ourselves need assistance shifting.

Let’s look at the first belief as an example: “Selling something is being pushy.”

Imagine that you have arrived at the most amazing 5 star restaurant. It has incredible reviews and you love the ambience. You are really hungry and can smell the most delicious flavors. The hostess shares the specials. She explains how different food will affect your mood.

After she’s done, she thanks you for coming in. She doesn’t ask if you’d like a table. In fact, she tells you that unfortunately you can’t order the food. Whaattt??? This would make absolutely on sense if this actually happened to us, am I right?

It’s a bit of an extreme example but a great metaphor for selling. If someone has a need and we have the solution, why wouldn’t offer it?

Let’s take a look at it more deeply from a marketing perspective. In this situation feeding yourself is the solution that will solve the problem of feeling hungry.

You have a problem: you are hungry. You need a solution: to eat food. It’s the same with anything you are selling.

It’s not the only solution though. You have many options, You could go to the grocery store. You could ask someone to make you a meal. You can go out to a luxurious dinner. All of these options would solve the problem. The different options will vary and your preference will based on who you are.

The key here is you get to decide what to buy based on your unique preferences.

This is why it’s so helpful to get clear on who you are helping and why. When you know the problem your ideal client is trying to solve, you know their personality, what they like, how they want to feel, you can feel confident when you give them your solution. They may not know they need your solution, but you can share with them all the ways you believe it will help them solve their problem. That’s the education piece.

There will definitely be people who won’t buy what you are offering. Either they aren’t ready or they don’t fully connect with your style. However, it’s not your job to serve everyone. It is your job to serve those people who do connect with you and are looking for exactly what you have.

When you look at selling as offering something that will help that client or customer, selling becomes service!

Of course, selling will feel pushy if we continuously offer something to someone who doesn’t need what we have to give or has told us that they are not ready. For example, if we know someone really likes Indian food wouldn’t they be more likely to go to an Indian restaurant than someone who has never tried any indian food before or has told you they don’t like those type of flavors?

Now, imagine you have a desire for Indian food but your local Indian restaurant doesn’t have storefront, website, and no one seems to know where it is located or what it’s hours are. How would you be able to get there and eat this amazing food? Of course, you wouldn’t!

What Selling Looks Like

This is why true selling is about really narrowing down that ideal soulmate client and creating an offer that you LOVE and know your clients need.


Here are some new ideas to try on about selling:

• Selling is sharing

• Not sharing your offer is a disservice

• Money is a renewable energy source

• It’s not your job to decide what someone can or can’t afford

• Freebies are vessels to provide value and share your teaching style

The following 7 min. video training is something I created for my FREE Facebook Group {<—-link} the other day and this content is just too good not to share! I talk about these new ideas to try on about selling and how you can start viewing selling with heart.

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If you are feeling out of alignment with selling there is most likely a valid need you have that requires developing your business strategy, working with your mindset, and/or taking care of yourself and has NOTHING to do with selling being sleazy.

Here are some questions to evaluate what is really going on under those faulty beliefs about selling:

Are your fears really your desires in disguise?

Often our fears are actually our desires in disguise. Business is going to bring up all sorts of things: fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of not knowing the answer, intolerance of confusion, learning, trusting the timing, letting go of an outcome, you name it! If we are unclear about what the fear is, we will default to an unconscious belief that either judges ourself, “I’m never going to be successful” or a belief about someone or something else, “Selling is sleazy and I don’t want to be one of those people”.”

Are you orienting your potential clients upfront that an option to purchase your service or product will happen at the end?

Sometimes we might feel icky after talking about an offer because we are judging the fact that we just had a sales process that didn’t feel exactly right. Maybe we like to let our potential customers know where we are going with a sales conversation or marketing event. I personally love orienting people! Letting people know up front that you are going to have a way to take things deeper but of course they are in no way obligated to is a nice way of giving options. It empowers your audience too because it’s not your job to decide for them what they want or don’t want to purchase!

This also helps weed out people who really aren’t a good fit and don’t have an interest in making an investment. If these people are just looking for a freebie to give them all the answers, they probably are in a place where instant gratification feels like a better option.

Of course, as heart centered entrepreneurs, you know that when it comes to sharing your service, a transformation, or physical product the sample or freebie isn’t going to cut it. Yes, it gives them valuable information about your teaching style as well as a helpful experience to learn something from, However, you know it will never include the whole process. The magic pill doesn’t exist and there’s no need to pretend it does!

Are you excited about your offer? Do you believe in it?

Sometimes you may not want to talk about your offer because you aren’t really feeling it. Maybe you are bored with it and think you “should” be sharing it because you’ve done so in the past.

Maybe you haven’t had any feedback and are really wanting to know your offer works before you passionately share it with the world.

Maybe you have other things that have happened recently that you have to focus your attention on. Regardless of which it is, it’s helpful to narrow this one down to see. If it’s about the offer, the timing, the proof… then it’s not about selling!

Do you know your deep heart-centered why?

This one is a huge one that I talk about a lot! It’s really the foundation for your business. Especially when it comes to beliefs about selling, if there are parts of yourself running your business that are making money the #1 goal, then there will most likely be backlash from other parts.

This is because deep down as a spiritual, empathic woman you know you have much deeper reasons for selling. Yes, you can want money and enjoy it (this is actually very important!) however just doing something for the reason of money will never work. It won’t be sustainable. It will feel empty. It will mechanical. All fertile ground for the ego mind to start judging you and selling again!

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What are your beliefs about success, selling, leadership + expertise?

Make sure to take some time to journal, share with someone who gets it or work with a coach to uncover any unconscious beliefs and parts that might be holding on to outdated beliefs about any of the above!

Have you been conditioned by society or culture to value certain professions with large sums of money and devalue others?

Just a thought. If you question if what you “do” for a living as a healer, creative, artist, visionary, spiritual entrepreneur etc is WORTHY of getting paid and getting paid well, take a look at the professions that do and ask yourself, am I providing VALUE at least equal to or more than this person?

For example:

CNN Commentators- do they provide value? Let’s say yes. Is it anymore valuable then what you offer?

Reality show stars- valuable as entertainment? Are you just as valuable?

Basketball players. Valuable? Again, what are you offering and is it valuable?

More examples- traders, medical doctors, real estate agents, pilots..etc etc etc. These are socially acceptable high paying professions. Do these professions provide value? How does your value measure up?

Do you see what I’m getting at?

For the right person in the right situation ALL these people provide value. .

And yet who are creatives, healers, artists, teachers, therapists, online entrepreneurs to say they are not worthy of the same! Once you see that value, compensation & respect is not based on social acceptance but on how you view yourself and your offer, selling will get easier. .

All in all my friends, claim your value, claim the gifts you offer & watch your world change! xoxo, Jen

P.S. Creating massive impact for women like you: the creative, empathic, intelligent, entrepreneur is my passion!

The “heart centered why” is the first step towards creating a solid and supportive foundation for your business.

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How to Trust The Process When Reaching a New Level in Your Business

Trust.

What a beautiful, loaded, complicated word.

The nature of trust is solid. Yet, our path there? One of the most difficult.

I was lucky enough to talk to my business coach earlier today and we shared with each other and the rest of the ladies on the call about developing the importance of developing trust within.

That when being a CEO and creator of your own business it really comes down first and foremost to the belief we have in ourselves.

The Energy Leak of Mistrust

One of the ways doubt and lack of confidence shows up in our lives and businesses is through the energy leak of mistrust.

It looks like a lot of different things.

• Second guessing your decisions.

• Looking for approval from other people when you’ve made a decision.

• Feeling paralyzed if you can’t get that approval.

• Perfectionism and needing to get things exactly right

• Feeling terrified of trusting the process.

When starting your business or taking a leap into a new level of it this energy leak is so common. All your doubts and fears come to the surface. All those roots of old limiting beliefs start to pull tightly into the earth.

Have a goal that you desire? Forget about it. Self doubt is going to creep in.

So how do you handle mistrust when it inevitably does?

Can you assume it will come up and that’s okay?

How about using it as evidence that you are stepping into your calling more deeply?

How can you decide not to use doubt and mistrust as evidence to give up?

Compassion for the Doubt

Using your inner loving parent and your higher self as witness, you can have compassion for your humanness and also the good intent of a doubting part.

You can let go being hard on yourself for feeling doubt (judgment only creates more tension and protection).

Your Vibrational Escrow

Try this idea on: What if your wisest self was protecting your inheritance for you? That your heartfelt purpose and desires already exist?

Exactly what your truth wants is being held by spirit until you are ready for it. It is yours.

Good Feelings Currency

Imagine your body is a bank and the more good feelings and good vibes you give to the bank, the more you fill yourself up and have a cushion for a rainy day.

The more you praise yourself, encourage yourself, treat yourself well, you have a buffer for when those inevitable doubts will arise.

Trust that your higher self knows what's best for you

You may like to call it intuition or alignment, a sixth sense, a higher power, the universe. If you can trust that there is a process that creates babies and makes the sun go round each day, you can practice trusting there is something greater than yourself.

Face the Worst Case Result

Seeing that you will be okay regardless of the outcome can help to diffuse the charge of fearful emotions. 
Knowing you can face whatever comes your way and that you wont abandon yourself will also support the fears and doubts unconditionally, removing the charge.

Give Credit to the Signs

There are always signs that you are on your way. This is how we enjoy the process too. Look at the ways that you are moving towards your goal. Conversations, opportunities, smaller occurrences or partial occurrences of the full thing are all signs

Remember Previous Doubts

Hear me out. Not to reignite them but to see the progress you've made. You've manifested before. You've had doubts too.

Remembering you had doubts and reassuring the doubting parts that things turned out not only okay but better than you expected

Ask for Support

Find someone to work with who you can trust. I'm one of many. 
Find the right fit for you!

I hope that these 8 tips will support you on your journey towards being the unique, empowered, confident CEO that you truly are!

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How to manage the crazy of social media with meaningful marketing

Do you ever go on social media only to resurface frustrated & confused, not sure what you just did, let alone if it was meaningful?

I know, It can be bonkers on there.

Social media is a great marketing tool with many people sharing how it's working for them.

Yet, it can feel like a crowded night club where you’re shouting over the noise. Then the lights go on and nothing looks as sexy as you thought.

This week I got real with ya’ll on Instagram 

I crave authentic connection in a technological world of digital words, emojis and pretty photos.

Don't get me wrong, I love pretty photos.

Yet, not enough of us are talking about the "cray" of social media and how to navigate it in an authentic way.

The conversation hit home with so many. (Evidence that social media can still be used for good ;)

Here’s some of the words that people used to describe their experience. Can you relate to any of them?

• It’s feels like a fake world

• We are showing others only what we want them to see

• Overstimulation 

• Tedious cycle of trading content for followers/likes

• Feeling blocked and burdened with social media 

• Needing to stop posting completely and not sure how to get back into it

• It’s confusing 

• Second guessing what to do

• Feeling frustrated about how people grow their accounts or get followers

This is how people want to feel on social media:

• Bring back human contact!

• Keep it simple and authentic 

• Let go of the likes/followers

• Feel light about sharing their creativity

• Want refreshing attitudes and positivity 

• Real connections 

• A balance in life between family, passion and marketing

• To feel certain they are learning something thru the trial and error

• To trust that breaks are okay

• The desire to be part of it but in a healthy way that feels good

• A space to slow down and connect

• Time to create/paint/follow their passion and create meaningful marketing
  
  

What are some of the reasons why Social Media is making us crazy?

1. There’s so many platforms to choose from

2. Social media is designed to be addictive

3. Platforms are always in flux with changing features + algorithms

4. You are not seeing all of the backend work that goes into maintaining a successful account

5. You are still carrying the belief that more is more.

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So how do we balance what’s happening and how we actually want to feel?

First, acknowledge that there is tension between the two. Then, start reframing the beliefs that aren’t working. Next, experiment with new strategies that do (this cheatsheet will help you do exactly this!)

You may be feeling like social media is a burden because you haven’t broken down the process into simpler steps. You might be trying to mirror someone else’s strategy. Or, you are too committed to a strategy that doesn’t work for you.

This is why I created this cheatsheet!

In this simple download, I breakdown why social media is sending you to Crazytown and what I've learned that is going to change everything for you too. 

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After reading this FREE cheatsheet, you will stop second guessing your social media strategy, start making connections and engage your community with meaningful marketing.

I'm happy to say, my clubbing days are over. Want to do coffee instead? ;)

Jen


P.S. If you can relate ...leave a comment. I love connecting with YOU, the woman behind the curtain....and the screen! :) 

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How to Know When to Take Action on a Desire or Wait for More Guidance

Hi there friends!

This week I’m sharing a podcast with you on one of the most common I receive from clients and students:

How do I know when to take action on a desire or goal versus wait for more guidance from my higher self?

Have a listen and let me know what you think!

Major Themes:

• There is tension between waiting and listening to your intuition vs. taking action 

• It’s not comfortable

• The difference between basic human tension and battlefield intensity tension

• Transparency regarding my own process choosing my ideal client

• What do we normally do to numb out from the discomfort? 

• Instant gratification and instant relief as a way to distract from the discomfort

• Some questions to ponder to give you more insights into your own process

  
  
  Let me know in the comments what came up for you! xo, Jen

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Breaking Down Imposter Syndrome: The Energy Leak of Denial. How it Helps and Keeps Us Stuck in Life and Biz

Deny, Deny, Deny. 

One of my many, many, coagulated defaults. No shame here about it. 

I needed this ability like I needed air to breathe and water to live. It was impossible for me to accept my circumstances growing up because a child isn’t meant to do that sort of thing alone, so my biology tried all the trigger settings we universally find in our nervous systems:

Be more open and loving (first biological response to pain)

When that doesn’t work: retreat, flee or get away

(though where’s a child really supposed to go?) OR fight (what to do when justified anger and rage isn’t acceptable?) 

The default is to then go into FREEZE. Deer in headlights. No where to run. Not possible to fight. The body and nervous system go offline in order to dull out such intense levels of energy that have nowhere to go. 

If this happens repeatedly over time?

Feeling and sensation, while just beneath the surface, disappear. Numbness, dissociation, detachment and emptiness become the figural form as identity.

All the previous layers become the ground, looming like sharks in dark waters ready to break through the surface at any moment yet unable to surface within the ever increasing pressurized cook of this holding pattern. 

How does one live with this in the world?

Fawn, Submit, People Please, Caretake

Living life like this is a way to function in a world that still at large has no idea about any of these stages. And what becomes of it? 

Walking, disembodied zombie parts, parts living for others needs and not their own, perfectionist parts that continuously feel on review, hyper vigilant parts that continuously scan for danger, robot parts that mechanically view the world without feeling love in their hearts. 

These parts become the PERSON we take into the world

when our bodies grow into adults and these child parts remain unattended to. 

These parts influence our relationships, our interactions, our day to day life, our businesses and as a result the entire world. 

We use to thing to deny something meant it went away. It doesn’t.

It only appears to go away yet, as mentioned above, remains lurking beneath the surface, influencing every decision and action we take as a human race. 

Deny. Deny. Deny.

If you are still doing it. There’s a good reason.

There was an incredible reason you learned how to do it. You needed it. 

But souls inhabiting adult bodies must learn (over tremendous, dedicated, meticulously detailed time) that healing is necessary and has to happen: that there is a wise friend (YOU) on your side. 

You have to face the pain. You have to listen deeply on the inside to what these parts didn’t get. To the debilitating process of defaulting over and over again. To the devastating experience of living life offline. To truly live now, we have to give words back to the child who had no words to the loss of being alive. This is your one job. This job alone will naturally change your life and change the world. 

Love, Jen 

P.S I hope you enjoyed this article! Please like and share with those who will find it helpful :)

And if you’ve found yourself doing the continuous head nod during this post, you may find my Confident CEO Assessment helpful.

It will assess the 4 areas where Imposter Syndrome shows up, one of them being TIME!

P.P.S. We’ve got a lovely group of women already invested in the November Confident CEO Mastery 4 week class “Let go of Self Doubt + Step Into Your Calling”. It starts this Monday, November 5th!

It’s such an important course I’ve created.

You have gifts.

They are meant to be shared.

Period.

If you are finding that second guessing yourself, indecision and fear of visibility are affecting you from rising up into your full self, check out all the details for this November here: bit.ly/CEOMasteryExperience ⭐️🙌🏼

How to Access Your Intuition (and how to practice doing it)

Who says you can't bottle up motivation?

Or put inspiration in a pill?

Actually..they're right. You can't. You've actually got something even better.

Yes, I'm about to tell you something that you may have never realized.

In fact, you may experience a lot of resistance to this idea.

Your ego may begin to throw all sorts of ideas at you:

"Too good to be true". 

"Yeah, it's just not that easy". 

"That sounds great, but I don't have that!"

"This is a crock of new age b******t!!"

Yes, I get it. I know exactly what it feels like. I'm also on a first name basis with tons and tons of ego thoughts that have gotten in the way of accessing this part of myself.

I also was never taught this growing up or even in young adulthood.

Soooo I'd like for you to practice this resistance antidote for the next few moments.

Resistance Antidote

Pause for a Moment Right Now + Get Centered

Take in a deep breath, exhale.

Do it again.

Ask yourself, “would you be able to listen without judgment for the next few moments?”

Ok... Here we go:)

So what is this magical place that we each have unlimited access to?

That contains all of your drive, all of your passion and all of your purpose?

Well it's literally been right in front of you all along.

Actually it's even better than that. 

Your inner drive, passion, and motivation is literally located in your body. It is tangibly located.  

You, just by the nature of being a human being, are born with a visceral  experience of your INTUITION.

My experience with tapping into this place inside

Years ago, I heard a snippet of an energy exercise from Kristin Morelli where she was leading everyone to tap into the magnet in their stomachs. 

While I missed most of the exercise, it gave me a hit and instantly drew me  deeper to the physical experience in my body that I am literally being pulled by something inside me to the next moment, level, and energy in my life.

When I checked in, I could feel a motor running, a solid energy source that was intently and gently, pulling me from a gut place into the next course of action in my life.

This force was strong in a solid, dependable, secure and safe way. And really deepening my awareness of this core energy gave me that always beautiful aha recognition that..ahh yesss... Here I am. This is Me.

For some of you, this may be a bit far out right now and that's okay. 

Everyone has intuition and if you are feeling frustrated or confused right now about how to access this know that is completely normal.  Because this skill is experiential, practical, and real. And you will be able to tell this by practicing to it over time, getting to know it better, and watching how it guides you in your life.

There is a catch

The key though is that this drive, passion and motivation cultivated by your intuition does not work for just everything.

It works when what you are experiencing and moving toward is aligned with you.

No amount of tapping into this inner place within (The True Self) will make any difference if what you are trying or forcing or convincing yourself that you “should” be doing is not really what is resonating and aligned with your heart and your intuitive higher self.

The good news is this is a positive thing! This means there are certain things and experiences and passions and people that are aligned with us and as we keep fine tuning this radar, we will flow into what is meant for us more and more.

How does this apply to life and biz?

Once we understand that we have an internal guidance system inside, an inner radar, we can use it to our advantage. We can use this place within us that we have unlimited access to as a compass that can guide us. We can depend on it. We can use it’s intelligence and 6th sense.

When we start feeling stressed, burnout, anxious or doubting, we can check in and see what our internal guidance is saying.

Do we just need some rest?

Do we need to change directions?

Is our daily schedule in line with our values?

Permission to Practice

It takes practice. Despite having heard this exercise years ago, I still am training my mind to let go and allow access to this guidance within me. I use to think I could just do one exercise and instantaneously “I’d get it.”

Ha! Boy was I wrong, It was even harder for me because growing up I wasn’t allowed to process things, or learn things, or grow. Judgment and shaming comments and lack of awareness kept me trying to push forward into adulthood when what I really needed was permission to breathe and course correct and fail and then learn as a child does.

I needed to be nurtured in a way that allowed me to access my own inner guidance. To trust myself.

This is root cause of self doubt. Learning we can’t trust our internal guidance, our reactions and responses to life.

A Quick Meditation Practice for Accessing Your Unlimited Guidance (Your Intuition)

So I am going to guide you through a little experiential practice: 

Take a moment to sit back and relax your body.

Create a willing posture with open arms, feet flat on the floor, palms open, and taking in a deep breath in and out.

As you continue breathing, start to bring your attention to the place a couple inches above you belly button.

You can even touch it lightly with your fingers for a moment or rest the palm of your hand there.

Start to generate a feeling of warmth there that feels like it is directly inside the center of your body.

Allow yourself to notice a solid feeling right in that spot and notice that the more you put your attention on it, the more solid it becomes.

Start to be aware of a "motor" running inside you. You may even notice a pulsing.

Breathe.

Just notice this, allowing any thoughts or judgments to be there and gently guide yourself back to this solid feeling inside your core.

Breathe.

Try this several times throughout the day. Maybe throughout the week.

Practice checking in with it as well and seeing how it feels in different situations.

Get to know it, patiently. With curiosity.

Let me know how it goes! Now that I’ve rediscovered my intuition I love geeking out on it :)

Love, Jen 

P.S I hope you enjoyed this article! Please like and share with those who will find it helpful :)

And if you’ve found yourself doing the continuous head nod during this post, you may find my Confident CEO Assessment helpful.

It will assess the 4 areas where Imposter Syndrome shows up, one of them being TIME!

P.P.S. We’ve got a lovely group of women already invested in the November Confident CEO Mastery 4 week class “Let go of Self Doubt + Step Into Your Calling”.

We begin first week in November and it’s such an important course I’ve created.

You have gifts.

They are meant to be shared.

Period.

If you are finding that second guessing yourself, indecision and fear of visibility are affecting you from rising up into your full self, check out all the details for this November here: bit.ly/CEOMasteryExperience ⭐️🙌🏼