What to When You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Past
Hi! My name is Jen Mele of Jennifer Mele.com, Abstract Intuitive artist, inspired teacher & e-course creator.
I teach the philosophies & mindbody Techniques I have used to create a compassionate inner relationship with my wisest Self as well as transform my life from relationships, to business to my body & mind.
This is how I create & sustain an inspired life. by continuously connecting to this inner wisdom which naturally unleashes the unique gifts that make me come alive. And I know the same is true for you. You have your own wise warrior within An inspired life is full of joy, peace, self expression & abundance. It is created by tapping into the unique guidance that can only come from inside of YOU.
Whose afraid of the friendly ghost? Is that how it goes? Casper anyone??
Even if those ghosts weren’t friendly in the least, I’m here to let you know that you don’t have to walk around today fearing those same ghosts are going to return or that you deserve to be haunted by past experiences, choices or mistakes that you’ve made.
If anything, it’s often the people who are aware and have already changed certain behavior or are aware and couldn’t have done something differently that can beat themselves up the most.
Let me repeat that again in another way. It is usually the experiences that we could not change that we beat ourselves up over the most because the constant obsessing, worrying and analyzing makes us FEEL like we are doing something, that it was in our control.
However, than we feel like utter shit because self blame and shame hamster wheels are some of THE worst feelings.
Please do yourself a favor and watch this video where I offer two helpful and compassionate tips on how to stop the past from haunting you so you can live an inspired life joyfully in the present!
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What do you think? Compassion feels so much better doesn't it? And don't be hard on yourself if you are NOT there yet either. You WILL get there.
I'm here for you!
Xo, Jen
What to Do When Dread Comes Up on the Way to Your Dream
Hi! My name is Jen Mele of Jennifer Mele.com, Abstract Intuitive artist, inspired teacher & e-course creator.
I teach the philosophies & mindbody Techniques I have used to create a compassionate inner relationship with my wisest Self as well as transform my life from relationships, to business to my body & mind.
This is how I create & sustain an inspired life. by continuously connecting to this inner wisdom which naturally unleashes the unique gifts that make me come alive. And I know the same is true for you. You have your own wise warrior within An inspired life is full of joy, peace, self expression & abundance. It is created by tapping into the unique guidance that can only come from inside of YOU.
Have you ever experienced dread about an appointment, an event, a series of situations that are in your future? The video of this week addresses this topic.
Dread is a feeling that has come up for me over and over again for many years. Not wanting to show up (but doing so anyways) has been a theme in my life.
Dread is a funny thing. It is very much connected to anxiety.
I didn’t recognize how related to anxiety it was until I started unblending this part of my self and understanding that the dread was actual fear and hopelessness compounded.
A fear of not moving forward and staying stuck, a fear of having to do things and be something for people (ie expecting the burden of caretaking and parenting someone) a fear of my current circumstances as evidence for what was my reality and so forth.
As I began to understand that these beliefs and fears were not about my present day Life, but about the experiences and perspectives I learned as a little girl feeling stuck in childhood circumstances I couldn’t change, I was able to take in more of what I actually liked in my life and also pay attention to my dreams more.
We don’t have access to our dreams fully until we clear out what fears we have carried in from our past might be blocking them.
This video discusses two tips to help you come into the moment and release dread, often helpful after validating the dread in the first place as a part developed from your past.
This doesn’t mean you had to have experiences like I did or a dysfunctional upbringing. Stuck emotions can develop from all sorts of experiences at school, developmentally, in college, in jobs or from well meaning parents.
What’s most important is the EXPERIENCE of that part of yourself that developed a belief in dread.
Once that part feels understood, you can practice the tips in the video to gently acknowledge that yes, there is hope for the future, create an action step to provide proof for yourself and also bring your attention into the moment.
Dread, worry and fear can’t exist if we are truly in the moment!
I hope you enjoy this video!
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Let me know what you think in the comments!
Is there any particular area you are experiencing dread in right now?
Do you have a Dream you can’t wait to get to but you feel that “life” is in the way?
What can you do today to take one small step toward your dream?
I'm here for you!
Xo, Jen
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The Way out of Numbness into Feeling Alive!
I've been thinking a lot about how to bring more peace, joy and contentment into my life. Learning how to experience more fulfillment and connection to others too.
These are helpful thoughts to have right?
And I keep finding that connecting to myself FIRST is key. Also, finding ways to express myself, because this confidence in self expression IS what makes me feel alive.
This is not just creative expression, though that is super important for me! It is expressing my thoughts, feelings, desires...the good, the bad, the ugly.
For trying to hold onto the good without walking through the pain leads us into Spiritual bypass land, another detour into numbness that can often feel ungrounded, flighty, and fleeting .
For many, many years of my life I felt numb, disconnected and empty inside. Of course you wouldn't know it on the outside. I appeared to be high functioning, always with a smile on and successful.
Yet something felt terribly wrong. Not just something, many things actually. And I was literally dying inside. Like a flower wilted from lack of water and sunlight.
My joy was extinguished and what would appear like happiness would actually be excitement. This would send me on a roller coaster, crashing into disappointment, hopelessness, fear and shame when I would come down from that adrenaline.
Maybe you can relate to some or even all of this?
I didn't know what was "wrong" with me. I kept trying to figure it out. I kept trying to fix it on the outside.
Little did I know I was being led to discovering what was ailing me, but it felt like it took forever!
I begun to find out there was actually nothing wrong with me. Everything happening inside of me and the lack of feeling was just because I had never expressed my feelings before. I had kept them stuffed down for years.
And because of this my light had been snuffed out.
Or atleast it appeared to be.
I believe and have experienced that our light is never truly gone. It is just covered by layers (or parts) that served to protect us through unhealed loss and intense emotions.
What was I experiencing? It couldn't have come out of nowhere. And it didn't. But that's a story (many stories) for another time.
However, what I now know is twhat I was experiencing and what I still experience is Complicated PTSD.
I will continue to share more about this as time goes on. Because I am finding that I must honor my Self, my story and my healing journey in all areas of my life.
In addition, my main takeaway for today is that NO MATTER where you are at, what you are FEELING, and what you have been through, YOUR LIGHT is inside you right now.
And with willingness, patience, and a small sliver of an opening to ask for help, you will find that light will keep shining brighter.
It's not going to be easy despite the fact that the steps are simple.
Yet is is fully possible, 100% possible...to come alive.
To reignite yourself.
To unleash the fire and passion that makes you UNIQUE and who you are.
If I can experience it, there is no doubt in my mind, that it is possible for you too.
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Discover Your Intention for the Year with This Art Journaling PDF!
Happy New Year My Friends!
This year I've decided that TRUST is the word and experience I am choosing to embody for 2018.
I am choosing to deepen my trust in the process and allow things to unfold exactly as they are meant to. This means trusting my Higher Self and the inner wisdom within that feels peaceful, calm and centered.
I am also choosing to deepen my trust in others. This isn't the haphazard throw-caution-to-the-wind type of trust that I use to experience years ago.
It's not the impulsive, spontaneous, fear-based decision that reinforced my doubt in myself and avoided the confusion about who and what to trust.
This is the type of TRUST that is based on a gentle curiosity over time about those people in my life who keep showing up for me and I for them.
Those people who share many of the same similar values that I do.
Those people that I can be my authentic Self with and vice versa.
- PRACTICE
If you are interested in finding out what your Intentional Word of the Year is, I've created a little PDF for you where you can do some free writing, doodling and/or art journaling.
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No need for perfectionism
'Be content with learning, and not impatient. We will not be, and cannot be "abruptly lifted up and hurled into reality" (ACIM T-16.VI.8:1). It would terrify us, like a child in kindergarten abruptly being made President, or a first-year piano student being forced to do a solo recital in Carnegie Hall.
Each of us is exactly where we belong, learning just what we need to learn. Let us, then, enter wholeheartedly and joyously into the process, practicing our holy instants, receiving our little glimpses of the real world, each one assuring us of the reality of our goal, and the certainty of its attainment.' ~Allen Watson
I love this. So often in sessions, clients dismiss those special moments of shifts and love, waiting to only give themselves credit when the goal of everlasting happiness is DONE. I do this too. With my own personal work. With my art. Jonesing for an outcome when the fulfillment comes in the now, regardless if it's a beginning, middle or end.
Knowing that we are exactly where we are meant to be and that these glimpses of joy are strengthening our capacity to accept this love is a beautiful way of looking at the process of being patient with where we are at.
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